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So my story is a long one but I will shorten it.
So I have a daughter who is 3. I have a child arrangement order and lives with me but sees her mum 3 times a week. My partner has 2 children, daughter 7 and son 5.
My step daughter is great no issues with her. But the step son. I'm struggling. Everytime he cuddles his mum he looks at me. He craves her attention and sometimes I feel like a third wheel? Mine and my partner's relationship is good, living together for a year and the kids see their dad 3/4 times a week and there is no issues there. It's just my step son if me and his mum are showing affection not cuddling he wants to get In between us. She has recently shown more affection to him rather than me. I guess you can say I'm jealous that he is getting all the affection when I'm not hardly getting any.
Im sorting myself out and going to get help but I want to hear your guys suggestions and help.
Is the relationship ok otherwise? I am not too sure what to suggest. Maybe he just feels a bit off that you are with his mum and not his dad and he wants to show that she is his mum more than your partner? Has it been going on ever since you met or is it recent?
Everything else is fine, he just is all over his mum and just doesn't stop. I'm not sure if it's me just over thinking but he is a mummy's boy but it can become a little obnoxious.
It has only started this recent week, I don't know why he has began doing it. Like I said maybe it is just me being silly. I'm not sure.
Its natural he s going to be all over his mummy as he probably misses her as hes at dads 3-4 days a week. Maybe you could use the 3-4 days a week he isnt there to spend quality time with your partner a bit more if that makes sense
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