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So I have a gf who has a nine year old bright Witty son.
Since her son is so smart and witty and my gfs mum tends to have no filter when it comes to talking i want to find out what he knows about his father without telling him the family secret.
because my fear is when he gets to a certain subject in school he will have so many questions and he will be in young teen years then and he might resent his mother for not telling him sooner about his father if he doesn’t already know.
also is it my right as a bf/step parent to be wanting her tell her son or wondering if he knows or not about his father
sorry if spelling is incorrect
any feedback will be much appreciated cheers legends
Tricky one but probably best to discuss with girlfriend. It's not going to look good if you go behind her back. He's her son after all.
@champagne have tryd to in the past but she said it doesn’t matter anymore she made a mistake and that mistake is in the past.
i just don’t want him to find out later on in his life and end up resenting either one of us for keeping the secret potentially from him
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