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Ive just joined the site and I can relate to exactly what your saying , Im glad its not just me feeling resentful , I have a beautiful 2 year old daughter and been with my fiancee for 5 years , I should be looking around me and happy with my lot but I think I have had to change so much about myself that I hardly recognise the guy in the mirror these days . One other challenge for me was that my fiancee married young , divorced and has an 18 year old daughter . I pay all the bills and support my fiancee and daughter , unfortunately my fiancees daughter and I have a poor relationship, she is immature, selfish and I think although im no pyschologist she resents the fact that she is no longer the baby in the house , maybe her own father not being around when she was young brings out issues with her when she sees me with my daughter , who knows , either way its a nightmare at times .I recognise the feelings your talking about ,resentment , unappreciated , like you I think im a good guy and I financially support another guys daughter who gives me nothing but grief . A question I find myself returning to continually is how did I end up in this place , dont get me wrong I love my fiancee and I love my daughter and I'm not saying i regret becoming a father , its just that its had a massive effect on me and I could never have prepared or saw the difficulties with other relationships under my roof .
Your not a bad dad , we all imagine being back in our bachelor pad again .
Dude,
You are a lucky man going through what we all have at some point. I have a seven year old daughter who is now living in Germany because thats where my ex wife ended up and I rarely see her. Sure I have time to do what I want, ride my bike, go to gigs etc, but it does not make up for the fact I can't see my daughter on a regular basis which is a killer. Stick it out, soon they'll not want the "old man" getting in their way and you will have all the time to do the things you want.
Andy
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