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I remember the day I first stumbled across this forum. It had only been a few hours since I had been served the non-molestation order from my ex. I just sat down on my couch in shock and googled the 'what is a non-molestation order' and I eventually came across this place.
I remember reading the horror stories some of you went through to get contact, your monstrous ex'a and thinking to myself this is total madness, why are these women using their kids as weapons, thankfully my ex would never be like that...
My ex may hate me, she may want to leave me but she was never cruel, she was a great mum and would never restrict my contact to our son....my ex is nothing like these women that these men have encountered....
Boy was I wrong!!
She has behaved exactly the same.
Every case and circumstances for their anger towards us are diffident, but in all cases the ex's have used children as weapons and putting men through [censored].
So I'm wondering if this is a tactic used by solicitors. They coerse our ex's into behaving this way, to mentally break us into making mistakes and showing emotions. All to strengthen their position during legal proceedings
I've read hopeful stories where once the legal proceedings have ended, where there are no solicitors, the women miraculously change their attitude and become reasonable.
Sorry ranting. I just find how all these women behave in the same way interesting. Maybe I'm being too generous by suggesting that their behaviour is due to money grabbing manipulative solicitors. They're adults at the end of the day.
Another question, if you was in your ex's position would you have behaved the same?
I'm in a different position in that I gained custody of my children a couple of years after the divorce. It's difficult to answer the question in my case, as I wouldn't have behaved as my ex did before we even split up.