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You both have PR so you can yes but she's probably right that if you were not able to stick to what was agreed at mediation for whatever reason and then took this course of action which wasnt mutually agreed then it may not look too favourable.
Interesting you mentioned that she wants maintenance, potentially she is taking a harder stance to avoid shared care so that you have to pay maintenance..
@Daddyup she wants maintenance as I didn’t give her anything in the year we were separated but living in the same house as she was getting the child benefit and I still paid half the bills and mortgage.
She also says that this month I’ll have only had 4 overnights and that regardless of that I want I still can’t commit to half school holidays. Which she’s right about, but her parents have always been the childcare providers during school holidays. I’ll just have my overnights and drop him round there instead of school.
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To be honest I don't believe you should be relying on her parents for childcare during times that you are due to have the kids. Therefore she may be right that you are not in a position to have them as you want. After all, your relationship with them could breakdown , especially if your ex has a new partner etc..
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