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Hi,
1st time posting on here so apologies if I don't follow the normal standards.
Just looking for some advice - my wife's not well (not serious, a bug or flu at worst, cold at best). This means she's at home with my 2yr old son and also doing the school run for my 5yr old. Meaning she's pretty whacked by it all which I completely understand. But I get had a go at for going to work and not staying at home and helping her. We have no family/friends who can sort the kids out so it's me or no-one when she's ill. I've been into work because I've not long started a new role so don't want to upset the applecart but this upsets her.
Has anyone experience of anything similar and am I an ar$e for going in? Just trying to work out the best thing to do for everyone's sake!
Thanks for reading.
Hi There,
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It's difficult especially as when you say yu have not long started a new job, you want to make the right impression, and by going off work to look after your wife whilst she is ill won't look great, would you work allow you to maybe take your 5 year old to school before you go in so that you can show your wife you are happy to help but that you can't do it all, but can at least make it so she doesn't have to be up and out of the house so early.
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Otherwise would your 5 year old have any friends parents from school locally that could collect him and take him to school for your wife as that would also help.
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GTTS
I appreciate where you are coming from and it is hard. Talk to your boss and explain the situation to him, I let all my employees have this flexibility and it pays dividends in increased loyalty. We have now implemented flexi time where the people that need to do the school run come in at 9.30 or 10 but leave at 6 or 6,30 - most employers will want their staff to be happy and most of them have kids and we all suffer from the same issues.
I think GTTS has made some good suggestions, school usually have a breakfast club, perhaps this might be a stop gap solution whilst she's ill. That way you could drop your child off early enough to get to work on time.
If you give in to her, this is likely to set the tone for the future, as the main breadwinner, in the current market, I don't think you can jeopardise your position and she shouldn't ask you to.
Hopefully her unreasonable demands were a side effect of feeling lousy and she is on the mend now, with everything back to normal!
All the best