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Well this was 3 years ago.
On the plus side we've not split up yet. Added bonus now of the good old menopause. Cracking that is.
In a way shes got worse to be honest. Some days you'd look at her and she looks as if the world is coming to an end.
Still get the crappy comments for no reason. She seems to spend every waking moment, making a shitty or sarcastic comment. Or criticising - I reckon I counted she makes about 200 critical comments a day.
It is what is I guess. Put up (with) or shut up I guess. I probably don't want to split up and shes not going to change for the time being at least (cheers menopause!) so I've decided to work on myself. i.e. not letting it get to me or wind me up.
Its pointless me getting wound up. Anyone got any advice on how to stay calm and just pretty much ignore stupid comments?
Have you considered going to Relate, I think you can have solo sessions before considering going as a couple
Back in the day there was a book called Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. If you can get hold of a copy it has some helpful insights.
I got out as it was getting to this stage, unfortunately as we have a child then i will still be getting it but thankfully on a reduced basis, what grinded me most is the ability to not be able to discuss anything logically, she could not tell me the reasons she was angry and if you gave reasons why she had no need to be angry she would ignore them and go off in a huff even more angry (at what?)
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