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I have been in a one year relationship with my girlfriend. She has already forgiven me for sexting another woman 6 months ago. Now I have discovered that I may be a dad to someone else's baby. I have not told my girlfriend- even though I am aware that she would be more upset by me keeping a secret like this from her, than the prospect of me being a dad.
Why am I such a [censored]?
Hi There,
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That's really hard to answer without knowing you, what I will say though is if you care about her then you need to discuss this with her, when she eventually finds out it will hurt her more that you didn't tell her when you found out, the lies hurt more than the truth in most cases.
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GTTS
I agree with GTTS, as hard as it is to come clean, the fallout won't be any better if you leave it and she finds out. You'll probably learn a lot about yourself in the process too.... Good luck
Thank you all very much .... It's just something am not good with when it comes to telling ppl my issues ! i always keep them to myself and bottle it up in hope somehow it will resolve itself ! Obviously NOT .. Was very upsetting to see my Gf upset and i felt like an Utter selfish left handed Otter going down the stream side ways blind folded.
i Must say a lot of stress and pressure did come off my chest but i still wished i had the [censored] to tell her from the get go what the score is. I have learnt an expensive , upsetting and stressing situation which could have been avoided. anyway thanks for the reply's .
My next Step now is to sort out the DNA Test.
Thanks for your support means a lot
James