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Ok Guys,
Here is a question we posed on twitter and facebook. Be interested to hear your thoughts.
Which marriage is likely to be more successful - First or second?
I'd say the second, as you would have hopefully learnt from the first plus I would assume that most people would try harder so as not to have to failed marriages.
That said one of my friends is on his 5th Lol
Well my first marriage was a disaster! I met him in Kuwait, married him in Cyprus and divorced him in South Africa....and all in the space of 14 months! I always said I would never remarry, and I haven't...however I have been with my current partner for nearly 23 years! ...so on that record I would have to say the second!
Third 😆
Depends on what you mean by successful. My first marriage ended by mutual agreement after 7 years. We never fell out and we remained friends (we are still now like brother and sister, almost 30 years after the divorce. The second lasted longer, and produced my children, but my ex was a disaster from beginning to end - it was certainly exciting at times, but it was doomed to failure (I remember very clearly thinking to myself on my wedding day that it would never last)
After that, I knew exactly what I wanted, and did not want and having that knowledge helped enormously.
Generally in life, you can learn from other peoples experience and avoid a lot of mistakes - but when it comes to marriage and affairs of the heart, it's only your own experience that counts for anything.
Actually, in answer to the question, the second marriage must be more successful on the basis that if you are on your second marriage, the first wasn't successful.