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Hey guys, so basically the court has ordered that I write to my daughter every month for 6 months. I'm not exactly thrilled about this but I'll do anything that makes my child happy. So my problem is, in the court order it was stated that I should go to the YMCA for help and support. I've contacted there head office with all the information in regards to court and the fact I've not seen my daughter due to her mother. (no safety concerns) My question is, is there an organisation that can support my daughter when she receives these letters? I know for a fact my ex will drag this out as much as she can and I want someone not only to support my daughter but to keep things moving.
Sorry for the long post and thank you in advance for your help and advice.
Hi there
I must admit I have never heard of anyone being referred to the YMCA by the court before and I'm not familiar with the support that they can offer.
Did you have CAFCASS involvement in your case? You could try contacting them about this, they may be able to help with this, if not then you could write to the judge who made the order and request that they ask CAFCASS or NYAS to give support to your daughter over the next 6 months so that on return to court there will be access to how you daughter has coped and how best to progress matters.
I have to say, I agree with Mojo - I've never heard of YMCA being a referral point.
I would start with speaking to CAFCASS and if they are unable to help, I would echo what Mojo has said and write to the judge who heard the case.
Have either of you been ordered to attend SPIP?
That's a new one on me, and I worked for YMCA at the London head office between 2000 and 2007 or thereabout, though the local YMCAs do have more active roles in some communities, so perhaps the court has some local knowledge.
If your daughter is at school, it might we be worth speaking to them and asking the pastoral officer to be involved - bear in mind that anything your daughter says to them will be confidential, so you won't get anything fed back to you unless your daughter agrees to it, but equally, it won't be fed back to you ex either, unless there are welfare concerns for your daughter,
Hi There,
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I think as actd has said speaking with the school would be a great idea, they can offer support without your daughter even knowing she is getting it, I know I contacted the school where my son was when I split with my ex, and they ensured he was coping and had someone to talk too about things, having a relationship with the teacher (profesional of course Lol) can also allow you to find out how she is dealing with things at scholl which can be a real indicator of how she is coping in general.
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GTTS
Thanks Mojo, must of been a typo.
I've contacted the NYAS and unfortunately they won't provide support. The only thing they will provide is contact. I personally don't like CAFFCASS as they've twisted my words and defended my ex in situations where I think she was in the wrong. Thanks for the advice
Thanks for the advice Yoda.
Unfortunately, I personally haven't been given any advice or been referred to SPIP. I've simply had to google it myself, just now when I've seen your post. What a surprise.
Thanks ACTD, I'm looking at going down that avenue but unfortunately, my ex is objecting. I've got to write to the school and jump through there hoops and hers. I'll definitely be doing this though.
Cheers GTTS, I'll look into it