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Hi All,
A few issues this week with my ex has got me thinking.
What made this woman whom I had a very close relationship with now use our children as a weapon and not realise that although what she does hurts me but also hurts our children.
She seems to have no regard for the welfare or needs of our children but yet says she loves them.
How do some women become so twisted?
Regards,
Dave
Perhaps, for some women, they feel badly hurt and it's the only weapon they have and they know it will be effective. Sometimes, they are just being vindictive.
However, I'd still like to believe that it's only the small minority who do this.
The thing I find difficult to get through my head is how the ex’s can do this without thinking it will hurt the kids eventually?
In my case my ex has replaced me with another guy in less than a year since I had to walk out…..my little one was almost 4 at the time she moved the new guy in…and has since got married and has a kid by the new guy……….all this equals me not required in my son’s life as far as she is concerned!
Well I aim never to allow her to do that to me!
My ex seems quite unconcered if I am involved with our children, unless it suits her for me to have them, or that it may affect our children if I am not.
On reflection she tried to keep contact to an absoloute minimum so it did not affect mainteance payments.
It seems that I am redundant too..........
It upsets me greatly that I am now spening so much money having to fight an uphill battle, it is for sole residency I guess, and prove that she is the unfit mother I know that she is.
Drug test - Done, Medical report - pending, CAFCASS report - pending, next stop court September and October.
Hanging on in there......dont give up D - I - D........
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