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Hey guys.
So, the court has ordered that I write a letter to my daughter who I haven't seen for about 3 years now. She knows about me but is worried because she knows someone else as daddy. I've been told she's scared of me.
I know I have to start building a relationship but I just want a step in the right direction so I don't sound over-powering. I've been told to send pictures and cards aswell.
Any help much appreciated!
Hi there
What you write is very much dependent on the age of your daughter. I would keep it light, making no reference to her mother and step dad or anything from the past. Tell her a little about yourself, your job, where you live and the things you like to do. Photos are a good idea, she will wonder what you look like and strangely daughters often look more like their dads than their mums! If you have a pet you could tell her about that and if she's older maybe tell her what music you like, that kind of thing.
As her mother is unlikely to help her reply, I wouldn't ask her any questions about school or what she likes to do at first, you're just helping her build a picture of you and help her get to know you.
Best of luck
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