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Relationship question: Was your relationship with your partner/wife better before or after kids?
Before. My ex was my best friend for 4 years we had been through everything together, we raised her first daughter who is a little disabled I was there whilst she was pregnant through the birth and have been there all her life.
My ex really bailed me out when we first met I was literally on the streets she gave me a roof over my head and put food in my belly whilst she was struggling herself, she was an awesome dj we played together on many occasion we used to help each other out no end,
She used to be the most caring, compassionate person I had ever met she would never say boo to a goose then the day she told me she was pregnant that was it everything we had ever had went straight out the window that was 18 months ago and ive had nothing but abuse since, she is an empty vindictive, heartless women full of rage and abuse she's an absolute shadow of her former self it so sad things could be so much different 🙁
better before. fair bit in common but a strong point was that we also had different interests and different opinions sometimes on topics which was great as we both respected that and each others opinion and got on brilliantly.
Post birth, where the kid was concerned it was her way or no way...That remained after separation and I had to resort to court as that remains the mind set in regards to seeing him.
We were only together a year or so before we found out we were expecting so defo after the kids were born, then he started taking drugs and drinking and it all turned to sh*t, then he stopped and it got better but I was always on egg shells for fear of upsetting him and him turning back to drink, no way to live.
To be fair, he really really loved me and I hurt him when I left him. Saddens me now I guess. My divorce is final today too.
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