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It's been about a year since me and the ex wife have split. We have two kids (boy and girl) and due to her extreme obsession with always wanting things her way and keeping everything in her control, I have succumbed to seeing the children once every fortnight. (I know this is extremely less, but she's not ready to budge and believes this very little amount is very fair (!!!). I really need to take this to mediation/ court)
Any how, the agreement so far is very straightforward; I will collect them every fortnight on a Sunday for 6 hours.
I want as little contact with the ex as possible because of her bad narcissistic traits... Even though this agreement is straightforward and doesn't need further explaining, each month she will send me the dates that the children will be coming and will require me to confirm my availability on those Sundays. It's really ridiculous and unneeded.
What are your thoughts on this?
Thanks
hi,
how old are the kids? if it went through courts, then standard arrangement is fri-sun every other weekend. your arrangements sound very restrictive. if you need advice with the process, feel free to get in touch. sending you private message.
Ok that's fine with me to be honest. However, if after the court's decision, the children refuse to come (either because they actually don't want to, or due to being brainwashed by the other parent) what happens?
It's been about a year since me and the ex wife have split. We have two kids (boy and girl) and due to her extreme obsession with always wanting things her way and keeping everything in her control, I have succumbed to seeing the children once every fortnight. (I know this is extremely less, but she's not ready to budge and believes this very little amount is very fair (!!!). I really need to take this to mediation/ court)
Any how, the agreement so far is very straightforward; I will collect them every fortnight on a Sunday for 6 hours.
I want as little contact with the ex as possible because of her bad narcissistic traits... Even though this agreement is straightforward and doesn't need further explaining, each month she will send me the dates that the children will be coming and will require me to confirm my availability on those Sundays. It's really ridiculous and unneeded.
What are your thoughts on this?
Thanks
It sounds incredibly frustrating to deal with such micromanagement, especially when the arrangement is already clear. Taking this to mediation or court could help establish a more consistent and less stressful visitation schedule, reducing unnecessary contact and giving you more quality time with your kids. A formal agreement might help set firm boundaries and ensure a fairer, more predictable arrangement for everyone involved.