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Hi everyone, have only been posting replies of late so thought I would update.
8 months since I found myself alone bringing up our 2 boys (9 + 13) after my wife left for her childhood sweetheart and things are settling down.
I am sleeping better although I still dream about her regularly and am coming to some acceptance of what has happened - I recognise her right to choose who to be with but still feel anger at some decisions she made during the turmoil early on (particularly where the children were concerned).
I am still amazed at her relatively low level of contact with our youngest (she has no contact with our eldest - his choice).
I still feel very sad at the demise of our family unit but determined to bring the boys up right and am bracing myself for any potential collapse of her dream new life as there have been hints that the veneer of the new relationship may be wearing thin, I hope I have the resolve to stay on this path as my head knows it's the right way for us but I fear it may not have convinced my heart yet! This may be a moot point as she has had wobbles before and then all has been fine.
Thanks to everyone on here for all your support, both written directly and through being a community of like minded souls in related circumstances.
Will keep you posted.
CW
Thanks for the update CW and I'm glad to hear that life is settling down for you and your family. The situation isn't ideal but you are doing your best and I'm sure your boys appreciate that. It's a pity your ex hasn't prioritised them, but that's out of your control and I know that you have tried hard to resolve the various issues.
They say time is a healer and I hope that this is proving to be the case for you. Stay strong, you are doing so well. 🙂
Thanks for the update - it's a slow process, especially if it comes out of the blue, but you will move on when you are ready, and there's no rush.
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