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 AAC
(@AAC)
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Hello, new to this site and new to being a dad.

I have been a dad for the past 7 months, my girlfriend has 3 other children before me ages 11 and two 10 year olds. I am English and from England and my girlfriend is from Ireland and we live in Ireland. For the past 7 months I have been on the brink of being thrown out and sent back to England probably around 5 times, each time we figure "it" out and I am allowed to stay. It feels like I am a hostage, I am 100% dedicated to my child and I can't bare to think about losing her. If I was to be kicked out, I would have to move back to UK and would barely get to see my child.

I am also a stay at home dad, while my girlfriend goes to college.

Seems like I don't have a leg to stand on, is there anyone else out there in a similar situation?

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Topic starter Posted : 26/11/2012 7:39 pm
(@Nannyjane)
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hi there and welcome 🙂

Congratulations on becoming a Dad, even though its not in ideal circumstances at the moment. Every life is precious 🙂

I'm sorry but I dont know anything about how the law or family organisations might work in Ireland...do you know if it is the same as the UK?

Have you thought about trying to get a job, maybe part time. It might be that she is taking you for granted, and it might help the situation if you had other interests like a job to get you out of the house...you might feel less like a hostage then too. She might look at things in a different light and realize just how much you had contributed as a stay at home dad.

Have you thought of trying something like Relate or Mediation...as you are in Ireland I cant direct you to their websites but good luck with it and if you need to talk we are here to listen and to help where we can. 🙂

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Posted : 26/11/2012 8:27 pm
 Ros
(@Ros)
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The laws in Ireland are very much the same as UK . I see no reason why you have to move back to UK, you have full rights in Ireland . Do not feel afraid to use the full rights available to you as a resident .
Good Luck

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Posted : 10/12/2012 11:53 pm
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