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My partner has been sterilised and now regrets it
We have 5 kids between us , we have two together, I have one from a previous and my partner has two from a previous relationship, We now have a 7 seater car that fits us all in meaning no one misses out on holidays/days out which happened when we had a smaller car. My partner has been sterilised but now is struggling with not having any more - she is really struggling and I want nothing more to make her happy but I really don't want any of the kids to miss out as I think they will. Am I wrong for thinking this way?
You can't help how you feel. Perhaps it might help to tell your partner how you're feeling and discuss the practical side of things. It's likely to be a huge emotional issue for her and there are also the medical side of things to consider. Reversing the sterilisation is not an easy (or cheap) process and is not always successful.
Forget the car - if that wasn't an issue, how would you feel about it? If you like the idea, then look at what is involved, risks, likely outcomes etc and if you go ahead, then start planning for a minibus or something similar. But if the car is just a cover for the fact that you feel like you don't want another, then you really need to have that conversation with your wife.