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I am not quite there........but when I have sorted my kids, it could be possible I would be tempted to find someone who I can make happy (and vice versa).
Now being the socially inept person who is unlikely to hit the clubs anymore (early 30s - but at least I look much younger). In the absence of putting myself out with friends who may have friends, any other suggestions?
BW
Hi There,
I was in a similar possition and I went online and used dating sites, its been discussed here before and comes up a lot.
Dating sites don't have the same stigma now as they used to and a high percentage of people meet and then go on to marry after using online dating.
You have to go in with a VERY open mind and be ready to meet some varied people, some will be enjoyable meets and some won't.
After a while you will find it fun and as long as you can be open with the people you meet and if you feel there is nothing in the future between you and the person you are sitting opposite and just say "i've enjoyed talking too and meeting you but don't feel we have anything in common" or something to that effect then it can be fun.
GTTS
Yep - I met my wife on a dating site. If I hadn't used one, I'd never have had the opportunities to meet people that I had.
They may have changed in the last few years, so this may not still be valid, but the sites used to generate a profile, if the woman left it as the default profile, I ruled her out (I wanted to know what they actually said about themselves) and likewise, I was extremely honest about myself from day 1. Nor did I string anyone along - I knew exactly what I was looking for and what I was able to offer. I proposed to my wife 15 days after meeting and we've been together for almost 13 years and married for over 10 years now.