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I need help, I have just managed to trace my ex, who had a son for me and he is 12. I made contact at his 12 birthday even though my son was not ready for my appearance. I managed to talk to him but I think his mother had already managed to poison his mind. Having made contact with my son and spent sometime with him, my ex asked if I could spend sometime with her to discuss our sons needs.But the discussion ended up in bed. Now my son knows that the same man his mother said she had nothing to do with spent a full night in bed with him. My son is so vexed with his mother and he is blaming me of lying to his mother saying I got his mother to sleep with me. He does not want to see me ever.I can't take it. I feel I have let him down neither do I want to tell him the truth in case he ends up hating his mum. What AM I GOING TO DO?
Help.
Millerezd 😥
Must be pretty confusing for him right now.... but i guess it is probably the bigger stuff of your not being around that its really hitting on.... Could you write to him? Could be worth addressing more than the last few days events, and going for the bigger picture of why you've not been around...
My gut would say don't promise him the earth, but let him know you want to be a part of his life.... and him part of yours...
Any help...? Anyone else got some thoughts?