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Hi all.
A bit unsure how to proceed as seem to be put a bit back due to mums net. It wasn't the responses that put me back it's the fact they have seemed to boot me from the site.
Anyway. Me and my wife have a 5yr old and 1yr old twins. Moved house about 6 months ago. I have the kids 3 days a week and change jobs when needed. I cook clean and odd jobs. But still "I'm useless"
Have sexual interaction between 5-10 times a year with my wife.
My masterbation slowly rose to about 4 times a day night. Had to wait till all were asleep.
I used to pester her for it most nights. Then about 3 weeks ago stopped masturbation all together to try and kill my libido. This felt so depressing but short of straying best option.
Just wondering if there are other ways to cope.
Have spoke to her about it but just get shouted at and given a long list of why nots.
Any advise short of an affair or splitting up. As these are the common responces
Hi There,
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I think you would need to get to the route of the problem, this may be through talking further and possibly through counselling, which hopefully would help her to open up and talk through what is happening.
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It's not an unusual issue/complaint in relationships and generally one or the other partner will have a higher [censored] drive than the other.
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I'm sure some will tell you that you should buy her flowers, take you out or buy her sexy undies, but for me thats not really going to help and even if it does get the result you want that night it's not going to be a long term solution.
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GTTS
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