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[Solved] Separating

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(@Notsoperfect)
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I've mentioned it, however it's too late. I come back from a work trip not so long ago and some pictures from an evening out that look incrementing, although completely harmless. Now as explained before I have not been the best to her so I can understand to an extent. Because of this she does not want anything further to do with me and does not want me to go near the kids until I've been tested and wants me to leave immediately. I have not slept with anyone and I'm feeling very numb right now... I was trying to make the positive changes and be a better Husband and father to my Wife and kids.....Totally gutted

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Topic starter Posted : 21/10/2013 4:18 am
(@Goonerplum)
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I am so sorry to hear that. You can still go to couple counselling if you're separated.

We have some great separation information on the site located here which you might find useful.

We also have an excellent DAD coaching service for separating dads. The details are here.

Finally there is a web app that is available on the site called Sorting Out Separation that also may be of help. It's located here.

It sounds like the two of you may need some space to sort your heads out and decide what the next step is - if you think you can or want to salvage the relationship or not.

We are here for you to offer support and advice no matter what happens.
Keep talking

Gooner

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Posted : 22/10/2013 12:26 pm
(@Notsoperfect)
Active Member Registered

Thanks Gooner, I'll take a look at the links. Looks like I'm going back to my mum's for a bit and it's not been made public the fact we are splitting up. I know there will be a barrage of questions from people and I know that it's 99% my fault. The heart break is bad enough as it is, but the shame that I screwed things up and people judging......not sure I'll be able to cope. I'm not a bad person and just not sure I can deal with that pressure too.

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Topic starter Posted : 22/10/2013 4:14 pm
(@BabelFish)
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That sucks big time.

You need to be not so hard on yourself at the moment. It sounds like you are judging yourself very harshly. Give yourself a break, seriously. At times like this we can be our own worse critics.

Maybe Gooner is right some space will do you both the world of good. Allow you to both think about what is important to you.

I also agree that you should both look at attending relate or something - maybe it will help you understand each others point of view and work out if you have something worth saving.

Hang in there and don't beat yourself up.

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Posted : 23/10/2013 3:00 pm
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