[Solved] Relationship with your EX

I've not spoken to my Ex since we split 16 months ago

She was present at the last Court hearing but neither of us acknowledged each other in the Court Room

I find it strange that she hates me that much that she will do anything to stop me seeing our Daughter, Who'm I'm never seen thanks to the Ex's hatred & the Gender biased Courts.

To be honest I think the Ex is mentally ill & I can't see us ever speaking ever again

I'm not bothered about the Ex & I don't want anything to do with her but obviously I would like our Daughter to know who I am

So! to be honest I think it depends on if you want to have a relationship with the Ex

I have no relationship whatsoever with my ex now, and no direct contact. She sends the occasional snide comment via my children, but she has little contact with my daughter now anyway (I think she has a little more with my son, but I don't ask him on so he doesn't feel that I'm using him to pry).

To be honest, I have no interest in her at all unless it concerns the welfare of my children, and I suspect she has no interest in me so it probably suits us both.

I still have to see my former however I dont talk or go within 6 foot.

She is no easier although doesnt mouth off or anything. She is to passive agressive for that.

In a meeting last week with her and social services she complained that I would not take our childrens clothes or bags from her and that she wants to be able to speak with me which on the face of it sounds cool however the last time I thought I would help the children out of her car and take bags from her she mailed me accusing me of snatching and slamming her door.

She is to much of a risk for me to be around and I dont want to be open to further false accusations.

I am perfectly happy with communiation via mail and never seeing her.

I try to be reasonable but she is rarely ever. I took the children to hers at Halloween even though they were with me. Not even a thank you or anything.

Ho hum.....

Regards,

Dave

Mine has got worse and worse for the past 20 months since she told me she was pregnant she has got more angry vile and vindictive as time has gone on she is [censored] bent on trying to hurt me through my girls as much as possible and she will not rest until I have walked away or killed myself and she gets worse because she is realising I will do neither I honestly think she will never come round unless she gets help with her drinkig then it will never happen.

Funny thing is I couldn't careless I don't hate her I just want her to be at least civil for the sake of our girls.

No light at the end of the tunnel then eh!

Isnt it funny how youre together all that time and agree on most things then the minute you split you completly disagree about EVERYTHING!

I have to back track somewhat on my first post as my former has mailed me over the weekend and today offering an extra day contact this week as its my birthday and offering that I take the children to the Remebrance Sunday Service which they have attended with me since they were born.

I still want nothing to do with her as I still consider her a risk to me but it seems she has just started to be reasonable.

I am a little baffled and will ride the wave of reasonableness as long as it is there as the tide can be unpredictable.

Regards,

Dave

Nope the tunnel has collapsed and the rest has been filled in with concrete lol

ooooo! I know what you mean about the risk factor, been there done that, got the PINs notice then get invited in for a brew! No chance!

I have no relationship with my ex wife, we haven\'t seen or spoken to each other in nearly 2 years now, and I\'m happy for it to stay that way.

That said my brother spilt with his ex about 10 years ago and they have managed to get to a point where they are on good terms, his son can call him and say can I come over and his ex will drop him, or my brother will go and collect, it wasn\'t always this way and he went through a lot, but sometimes there is a little mole tunneling through the callapsed tunnel Lol

GTTS