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Hi all.
I'd appreciate some advice and to see if anyone else is or has been in the same position as me. I've got 4 children who I have every single weekend without fail (Thursday for an hour or 2) then Friday night, Saturday night and then Sunday till 2.
Ive met a girl who's amazing with the kids but recently she's mentioned issues and has before to be honest about us having no quality alone time as we both work through the week.
My issue is that since the breakup I've had to move back in with my parents until I can get back on my feet. This isn't ideal as we all share one room, although the kids don't mind at their age for now.
I've agreed with my partner that we could have one day a month where I could get my parents to babysit so we could go out together and things, although this doesn't seem enough.
I had spoken to my eldest girl and told her about this but my part er also wanted me to sleep hers alone on the odd Friday here and there. I did this last night and my eldest girl (aged 8) was upset about it and said that the weekends are for spending time with them, and although I mentioned that they was asleep and it didn't impact them as they were asleep, I do agree on the other hand.
Have any of you been in this position or have any advice please?
Thanks in advance
Hi,
I have not been in this situation but understand single parents need their own time off to recover from child care and do their own thing 🙂 an arrangement like having kids every other weekend seems reasonable. this is what is commonly issued through courts. or a 50/50 arrangement. 1 week on, 1 week off. 3 days on, 3 days off.
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