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What changes can you make to improve your relationship in 2014?
...we went through a rough patch about a year ago, I think he was having some kind of mid life crisis, his confidence was low as was his general mood, at one point I felt he was clinically depressed. I did try hard to be understanding but I did have to speak firmly to him on occasion! Thankfully things have improved a lot since then but because of it our relationship has changed. I had to become stronger for him and that seems to have remained....I guess we're more equal now as far as what happens and decisions that we make....you might think that's a good thing and I suppose it is but I do miss the old way when I had less responsibility!
I've spoken about this because it has a bearing on what changes I wish to make to improve things. We have become more like friends than partners and the physical closeness has diminished, so this year I'm going to make the effort to put a little romance back into our lives. I think a couple of short breaks are on the cards, a few days in Barcelona and maybe the antique markets in Paris. Shared interests do bring people closer together....I learnt to love football for that very reason!
Through the past year I have piled on the pounds too, comfort eating! ... which has done nothing for my self esteem so I'm going
to try and lose some weight, for myself but it will have an effect on my confidence which of course will also impact on him.
I'm with you on the losing weight - more because I want to live to a ripe old age and grow old disgracefully with my wife 😀
I have resolved (is that the right word) to listen more and talk less. Figure I might be a better partner if I make sure I understand my other halves POV more. Not saying I talk too much but seriously want to engage brain before engaging gob more this year.
want to engage brain before engaging gob more this year.
I think that ship has long since sailed in my case 😀
I am gonna try to work less long hours and do some more round the house. Does that count.
I am gonna try to work less long hours and do some more round the house. Does that count.
Certainly does 🙂
be more open with my oh. try to talk more and spend some quality together without the kids.
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