[Solved] Relationship breakdown, baby in 2 weeks, suicidal

Hi Mack,

I am seeing the doctor tomorrow

That's great news. Be completely honest and explain exactly how low your are feeling at the moment.

Where are you living at the moment - have you moved back in with your parents, staying at a friends or something else?

I would echo what Mojo has said about not dwelling on your ex's actions - wait until you are feeling a bit better in yourself. You are both going through so much at the moment - your having to cope with depression and she is just two weeks away from giving birth. Expecting a child can be really stressful for both parents but combine that with relationship issues and depression - it really is a lot to deal with.

I hope it helps being able to talk about it on the forum.

Keep talking

Gooner.

Hi mojo

Just moved back with grieving alcoholic father. Life is just dandy........

Honestly, you couldn't write the last 6 years

...have any of the professionals mentioned talking therapies? It might be something that you could request a referral for from the GP tomorrow. I understand your reluctance to go back on medication but if you look at it as a stop gap to help you through this particular rough patch....we all need a little extra help sometimes. Talk to your GP about taking pills and how they make you feel, perhaps a lower dose but just enough to,take the edge off.

You know, being at the birth is a relatively new thing... In the past men weren't at the actual birth but it didn't stop them forming a close bond with their child.... I sincerely hope you will be included but if you aren't it won't change the way you feel in the long run.

Yep done CBT to high heaven, and you usually wait about 12 moths for it. Thanks for your support

Hi mojo

Just moved back with grieving alcoholic father. Life is just dandy........

Wow Mack - sounds like you are really going through it at the moment. Was CBT any help?

Mack when you have texted your ex what you said to her? Have you explained that you want to be there to help support her? That you want to be there for her?

Tried all of that but she is saying I 'abandoned' them, when what actually happened is that my MH was getting so bad I just had to leave for the good of everyone. Of course, she says I left because of my own interests, not wanting to live at hers etc

The whole abandoned thing is ridiculous, just vindictive. Nearly every other day I've been asking to help contribute, work together for the child etc

She's just set on winning, not seeing the bigger picture. She's got her parents believing this rubbish too.

Could it be that she is just scared and angry at the moment - if she feels hurt could she just be lashing out . Maybe if you give her some time. In your ideal world would you like the two of you to get back together?

I would but know it will never work without counselling or mutual effort. Aside from that i think she'll dig her heels in now, especially when the family is on side.

Hi Mack,

How did you get in at the doctors? Was it a helpful?

Gooner

Awful mate, they just chucked me on citalopram 20mg and wouldn't refer me to specialist team until they had a referral from my last social worker. Doctors have no clue about mental health.