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As Above. Been in a relationship for 2 years now.
Me I'm a 40yr old father. That has my own home. And has my 2 kids living with me. 24 and 18 yr old Girls. That I fought through courts and social for as they wanted to live with me when me and there mum split. It was after a 16yr long relationship. And basically I got cheated on. My ex became 18 again when the kids kind of got up.
Moving on from that I got in a relationship with a female. We've been together 2 years. And in fully committed. But she has lots of trust issues from previous relationships etc.
We've now come to a crossroads where she's wanting more commitment from me as a partner as in living together.
But I've been totally honest and said that I can't. As first and foremost I've to be about my home for the kids. And be a father. And I feel that I put myself through so much. To make sure I done the job as best as I can.
I am very committed to the relationship as in I spend most of my free time at her house. As she doesn't drive. And we live over an hour apart.
As far as future. I have said. Yes I'm open to living together once my kids leave there home.
But she just wants to ignore this. And keeps saying that I don't give enough to the relationship. And it's starting to really weigh me down as a person.
If anyone I thought she would have understood as she's a parent herself.
Has anyone been in a similar situation. Where you feel your trying to balance everything. But still can't.
Thanks for listening. And any questions just ask.
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