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I'm going through the same process - living in the front room with little or no communication from wife. We've been together for about 20 years and have two girls who I still get on well with although a bust-up with the eldest last year has tipped the relationship - which has been very rocky for at least 10 years - with my wife over the edge.
She's now talking to solicitors - presumably about separation and/or divorce.
My main question at the moment is whether I can stay under the same roof as her. It's just about doable at the moment but things are tense. We can't afford for me to go and rent or buy somewhere else so in a bit of a quandary.
I guess all will become clear when she makes her move.
I think the consensus is always to try and remain in the family home, but sometimes that becomes impossible. You must be careful to avoid any confrontations, if she appears to be provoking them, this could be a tactic to get you to rise to it, at which point she could get police involved and get you out with an injunction.
If you don't mind me asking, how old are your children? This would have a bearing, as she may be able to claim that she should be allowed to stay in the family home until they are 18, which could prove difficult if you have a mortgage.
It might be advisable to seek some legal advice yourself, just to get a better idea of what you may have to deal with.
If it's ok I'd like to move your post into its own thread? It's not a good idea to tag onto older posts as it can get overlooked.
All the best
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