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Hello everyone, I am new here and would like some opinions on my current situation. My girlfriend and I have 2 kids a boy and girl. She lives in my house we bought it with the understanding that she was going to start a new job 7 years ago and split bill. Well that has not happen at all she works her part time job and uses her money mainly for stuff she wants. I am starting to really feel used as I am the one that has to work 50 hours or more a week just to hopefully pay our bills. The other day I talked to her about my work and that I needed her to help with the mortgage because I am short this month. She looked at me and said she was going to go out tonight with her friend now how the [censored] does that work. I am pissed that she has no ambition to even try and help but can go out. I am at the point of telling her to find her own place. Also asked her if she isn't going to help financially then at least keep the house clean. But I am the one that does that two. I can't stand it anymore what would be the best thing to do for my kids me and her.
Hi and welcome
Have you tried to talk to her about it? Explain how it makes you feel and ask how she feels about it? It does sound a bit like you're both running semi-parallel lives financially and money can be one of the most difficult issues for couples to deal with. Surely it would be better to try and communicate rather than throwing the towel in without trying, especially as you have children together.
Have a look round our relationship section to see if you can find any useful info there. If you're struggling to communicate, you might consider relationship counselling. Relate have counsellors nationwide.