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Hi,
I need help & advice.
My now ex partner has left me, during the pregnancy, she is currently 25 weeks. She has had a problematic pregnancy mainly due to her depression and mental health issues. We had a bit of an argument after seeing the obstetrician, her calling me every name under the sun and then saying this whole pregnancy was the worst mistake she has ever made. She is due to give up work at the end of march, where she was due to move in with myself and have access to my car. However she is adamant it is over and she doesn't want anything to do with me. I think she doesn't think i can support her as well as the baby, which isn't the case at all, she asked me to change certain things which i have done. She has made it abundantly clear that she doesn't want to talk to me, and has asked me to leave her alone. But is there anything i can physically do that can get her back and show to her that i can and will support her as best as i can.
Hi there
Unfortunately there's not a great deal you can do right now, if she's adamant that she doesn't want to talk to you and wants you to leave her alone, I would give her some space. Perhaps you could put how you feel in a letter/email/text and tell her that you will respect her wishes, that you want to be there for her and the baby and if she needs anything that she only has to get in touch.
That's about the best you can do at the moment... pregnant women's hormones are raging and this can effect their emotions and mood swings....hopefully things will settle down and she will contact you nearer the time. It's tough for you I know, just be patient with her and cut her some slack.
All th best.
Hi There,
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As far as I know and I may be wrong, but I don't think there is much that you can do until the baby is born, when the baby is born then you can try and attend mediation and if that fails you can apply to court for help, Hopefully someone will be able to confirm this.
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I would be careful about contacting her too much as there is a strong chance of her taking out a non molestation on you which will then make things more difficult.
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I know this must be really hard for you and that you must care for her a lot, but with how she is being you have to be careful that she doesn't start making claims of harrasment.
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GTTS
..... once the baby has arrived, if the situation hasn't changed, mediation would be your first step and if that fails the only other option is an application to court. Hopefully it won't come to that.
I Think we were posting at the same time Mojo Lol
I know her head is a mess right now, and as I said in my post she is under the pregnancy mental health team. But I hate to think she's not getting as much support.
I love that girl so much, even though and no fault of her own she has pushed me to almost having a nervous breakdown (I'm under the doctor for high blood pressure and liver problems), I've tried telling her I'd be here for her, but the reply I got was I don't want your help.