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The wife and I had our first child in april this year . it all stared two weeks before hand when the wife was rushed into hospital suspected heart attack, she stayed for a night the checked out in morning, two weeks after i got home from work and she was sat in sofa screaming in payne, I said lets go
to hospital she said no , about hald 9 she was crying and screaming i said thats it has enough so i rang 999, they said go straight to hospital, The surgical team does nt work weekends so we had to wait hole weekend in payn then on Monday the surgeon s come in to see the wife , they said it could be appendix so they said they may have to operate, we looked at eachother in shock and i rang her mum , the surgeon come
back and said we need to do
a c sec now and operate so from
being 8 hrs to the op they gave us 45 mins afterwards our son was born everything went well he has a double thumb which will be operated on when hes one . My wife fot septal and was rushed to icu for 5 days on air and drips i lived with our son i. the delivery suit and had the midwife s help , after a week she was allowed to see him but she struggled with exception and didn't want any thing todo with him it was hard to see , the week after that she was brought baxk to the delivery suit and we spent 3 weeks in hospital, we got home and i was off work and paturnity plus unpaid leave i pay all bills and my wife's given work up to take car of our son , iv felt so low and down without saying to much to the health visitor, my wife thinka im just trying to get attention and said it was her who went through [censored] and i can carry on because it was nt physical on my body does anyone think im making more then what it was i think i may have a break down one of these days
Hi jon15 and welcome to the forum.
You've really had a tough time of it, it's been all about your wife, and of course that's partly right, but you also need some support....it's possible you are also suffering from PND....yes it is possible!
I think you should talk to your GP and the Health Visitor about how you are feeling, and I'll get you a link to Pandas support group. Don't feel alone, there are many men that are affected by their wife's traumatic birth and there is help out there.
It's good that you've come here to talk about it, it will help.
Mind are also very helpful in these situations, here's a link
Hi Jon,
As NJ has said I think you are probably suffering in the same way your wife is, you have both been through a lot and what should have been a happy time was thrown into the opposite, I don't know a lot about PND but I can see that you need some support in the saame way your wife does, keep an eye out for the link NJ will post, others will be along soon to offer advice.
I would make an appointment with your doctor asap and discuss how you feel, there is no shame in admiting you are struggling and there is a lot of support out there.
There will also be support from us all here so feel free to chat to us about your concerns.
GTTS
Here's some more info...it might help to realise how many men do suffer from this and that there is help out there....the GP is your first step and there are things he can do to help....best of luck.
Hi GTTS
I'm going back to work now and my wife's started spending more time with our son hea 2 months old today so shes quite happy but im definitely going to look into nct for a bit too of help and to chat
thanks jon
Hi Jon
Let us know how you both get on - we're here for advice or a chat π
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