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Hi everyone,
I am so sorry to encroach on your space but I'm desperate for any advice or opinions from men with a non judgmental view.
I am a single mother to 4 and I'm trying my best to ensure that the children have consistent, stable and regular access to both parents
The children's father has been nothing but disruptive from day 1. There is a court order in place and regular contact is available but he does not call or pick up the children and then blames me for not allowing contact?!
He has joined fathers for justice, possibly this website too... taken me to court and claimed I abuse drugs, alcohol and have mental health issues, none of which are true. A section 7 report was carried out to clear my name and he was supposed to arrange a hair strand test but he didn't arrange one,
My eldest is desperate to see her dad, she has text him, wrote him a letter but he constantly tells her I am brainwashing her and that he doesn't have access because I am stopping him?!
I just want the children to be happy and have a loving relationship with both parents. Why would any father do this? What more can I do??
Hi
What do you mean he was disruptive from day 1 and if you were happy for him to see his kids why was it necessary to seek a court order for contact?
I'm not doubting there are problems between you, my advice would be to try and get him to mediation to t see if you can find a way forward. Perhaps you could ask a third party to help with contact, a trusted family member or friend.
Best of luck
Hi There,
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I agree with Mojo you need to try and get into some sort of conversation with him, maybe mediation as suggested, if you think he may be on this forum then be careful how much detail you post as you are asking for issues if he works out you are both on here.
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You are more than welcome to the forum and as already said we have many female members, so don't worry about joining, as said just be careful what you say.
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GTTS
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