Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: Important Information – open to read:
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
Hi guys anyone in the same situation as me? I have a partner I love more than anything and 2 lovely boys of whom I’m proud to say I am their step dad. I want what’s best for them and for my partner but I really struggle with their dads/ her exes turning up and treating my/our house like they can just come in and make themselves at home. It really gets under my skin and they both slag each other off to me and my partner. One of them only comes every other week on a Sunday for about 2 hrs and the other spends a little more time here, comes 2 times a week and spends time with his son and has him at weekend’s. I don’t like him coming so much. Is that bad? I feel like I’m in a relationship with at least 1 other person(mostly because one of the dads hardly sees his son) however.. both of them give the minimum when it comes to child support. I’m the wage earner in our household, i have a good job earning really good money, me and my partner share money so I pay for a lot of stuff. More importantly I father them more than their biological dads. Both of them really [censored] me off, my partner deals with when they come around and is very easy going about it. I feel like I just have to go with it even if it’s not what I want. Anyone feel my pain or am I being a selfish and unreasonable [censored]?
hi,
it sounds like a very challenging and difficult environment. there is some useful info here: https://www.mynourishedhome.com/challenges-of-being-a-stepparent/
https://www.parents.com/kindred/being-a-stepdad-is-hard-here-are-5-ways-to-make-it-easier/
Welcome to the DAD.info forum.
We don’t like to set ‘rules’, but to make sure that you and the other dads are kept safe, we have some requests. When engaging with the forum, please be aware of the following:
- The forum is not moderated 24 hours per day.
- Many of the moderators do so on a voluntary basis. Whilst they may be able to provide some guidance, advice or support, they may not be able to deal with specifics.
- We are not an emergency crisis service so if you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call emergency services.
- If you are concerned about the safety of a child, please click here to find the support you can get for them (link to new page)
- If you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123. They are open 24 hours a day, 7 days per week.
We hope you find this forum a supportive environment and thank you for joining us.