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Hi all, just to let the situation I got together with my partner while she was 4 months pregnant! Her ex who is the dad was horrible throughout the pregnancy showing no interest not helping her out with preparing for the arrival etc.
The baby is now born and he continues to be a tool! Hasn't helped with finances and only gets in contact when it suits him!
Now my issue is she says she can't stand him yet when they text it's like they are best of friends. He has her wrapped round his finger and she can't seem to see it. I hate the way they text and sometimes it's not about their child together bit things they did while they were together. It's very frustrating and although I know she wouldn't cheat it seems like she would rather keep him happy and not really fussed how I feel. I know it's for the best to keep the peace but hehas given her [censored] yet she acts like he's never done nothing wrong. Would you be best friends from someone who gave you no support and made you feel horrible and embarrassed while you carried their son?? Yet I tell her this and she says she understands how I feel but carries on with the over friendly texts and letting him get away with everything he does it's very hard as her partner to sit back and let it happen but she doesn't et where I'm coming from.
Hey Dan welcome to the forum, I've had experience of this and I hate to say it but it seems one of them is still in love with each other, who finished who? How do you know about the friendly texts? How long haw you guys been together?
I met my ex whilst she was pregnant and her ex disowned his baby at birth as he didn't want a disabled daughter, he slept with different women throughout the pregnancy, has never supported his child ever and she never had a bad word to say about him, I knew for a fact that she was in love with him and he kept saying the odd thing to keep her hooked for 6 years.
When my step daughter was 5 she admitted she was still in love with him throughout all this time she never had a bad word to say about him ever she [partly wanted him to be there for his daughter and partly wanted him so my step daughter was used as a pawn throughout.
When we finished she was straight back in with him as if they were best friends he was down on his luck (as usual) and he always sees her as a meal ticket and he always borrows or scams money out of her, he really is a sad waste of space.
I think you are going to have to tread very carefully here as if you pressure your Girlfriend too much she will run a mile although you could do with sitting her down and tell her exactly how you feel.