[Solved] Partner and Children disappeared suddenly

Hi All,

So we have been talking more via intermediary, she says she still loves me and misses me. Her head is a mess, I said I miss and love her too. Too much to write here but we had a dialogue about her coming back, she needs time to think it over. We also have started to have 1-1 dialogue via email.

So I have my kids as of yesterday via the contact centre, and there has been a shock horror development.

Totally out of the blue this morning, there was a knock at the door. It was her! I gasped and said "[censored]" and we broke down and we had a massive hug. She said she was worried and wanted to see if I was ok.

My eldest gave her a massive hug and we all hugged together sobbing. We all said we missed each other, and things sobered up after a few mins.

We talked about the kids and talked about what was going on with her, she opened up a lot more.

Shes going out with some local friends tonight we know, and staying with her best mate as her boyfriend left recently.

She says if she feels ok tomorrow she will come over and we can all spend some time together during the day . But I need to return the kids via the contact centre as there is a binding agreement that this has to happen (I agree). But depending on how things go pop back with them later, or visit in the week.

Edit: Came home today to find a letter from Child Maintenance, confirming case closed.

It all sounds like it’s going in right direction and I’m happy for you!

Please make sure you return the kids on time though, by the sound of it, it won’t be for much longer.

If you are going to try again, I think it’s might be a good idea to look into some couples counselling, there was obviously something fairly serious going on under the surface with her and this needs to be explored together, it has to be dealt with before you can both truly move on... otherwise you could just be storing up more problems that will surface again later.

All the best and thanks for the update.

im happy for you 🙂 its good to know that both of you can reason with each other.

Hi All,

So the return visit to the contact centre was cancelled on the Sunday, as she agreed to come over amd stay over till the bank holiday Monday and talk. Then take the children back.

So it was quite emotional and says she loves me and cares for me, but not in the same way anymore. I said could she come back and I can split the rooms out, and we could make a clean break at the end of the tenancy (Sept). In return I asked her to be open minded about how she feels, and I will put things in place to improve the feelings at home. To see if we can begin a healing process in that time. If her feelings don't change we move on. I promised to not put any pressure on her. If she does move on she said it is going to be very local.

She agreed, and Bank Holiday Monday we all had a family time before she headed back.

Today we organised a man and van to bring all her and the kids stuff back, and it's all been done. They should all be back tomorrow (Weds).

So at least now there is stability for everyone and things can be done cleanly.

...it’s bitter sweet for you, but you're in a much better place than you were when you first posted, hopefully you can both work it out.

It sounds like you are really making an effort to make this work, who knows perhaps you can rekindle the lost spark!

Wishing you all the best.