[Solved] Partner and Children disappeared suddenly

This is a stressful time for you, but I’m glad that you are getting on top of your emotions a little more, taking things a day at a time is good, trying to second guess what might happen will just twist you up in knots... just be kind to yourself and keep busy. A lot of guys, in the place where you are right now, found that going to the gym or a good workout/running really helped to keep their head clear.

If she has made allegations of domestic abuse, the police escort is part of creating the picture of abuse... it could be that the women at the refuge are advising her about it.

Stay strong SHDad, hopefully things will become clearer soon... all the best mate.

Hi All, thanks for your replies.

I have managed to have a better dialogue via a mutual friend, who is our former babysitter all on chat relays via her.

- Where she is, she is not allowed to talk to me, and she is not talking much to others either. Once she is out she will be able to talk to me and settle things out.

- I now have contact details of a contact centre, I have been told I can have the children home and in my care as often as practical. Inc overnight. There is no objections as long as they are returned as agreed. No court action or official agreement is being sought. If I can call in the morning, everything should be arranged in time for the weekend.

- I am being told that she has no wish for anything to be a police matter. It's just being advised she visit with an escort, and she has been told to collect her things. To not take anything that was purchased jointly or by me. Just her clothes and other bits that are obviously hers. The childrens things will remain for them here. No injunctions, nothing. Providing I don't try to contact her directly at this time.

- The Child Maintenance case is closed and we have a written arrangement. Including the use of one of the cars, expense, use of family phone contract.

So there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I do hope your optimism is well placed, but I remain sceptical that its as she is saying... I sincerely hope I’m wrong though.

Please do keep us posted. Best of luck

Hi All,

So I will be collecting the children tomorrow afternoon, returning them late Bank Holiday Monday. This has been arranged through a contact centre and agreed by both parties.

I have a social worker attached to my eldest Son, as I have a residency order following safeguarding issues with his mum and stepdad. She very kindly did a search againt me, and it turns out my ex has filled a concern. But this was the previous weekend before all this proper intermediary contact started and arrangements.

- She has apparently left because I was controlling her?

In 4 1/2 years I haven't stopped her from doing anything, she went out when she wanted. Did what she wanted, and I financed it all. I put her through driving lessons, got her her own car (I'm financing that). Got a new phone when she wanted etc. Even paid for hotel nights so she could be away in peace.

I'm not worried because the social worker has already spoken to one of her family members and babysitter friend who agree what she is saying is not the case. The social worker has also seen Kayleigh as part of the recent safeguarding with my eldest son.

- Apparently I drink a lot.

I have a couple of drinks maybe twice in the week (Not when looking after the kids) , at weekends on and off depending on the children. I haven't had a drink since she left as I'm now the sole adult in the rhe house and need to be responsible. - Said this to the social worker and she says my eldest and even his mother cite no drink issues.

- I fall asleep in the evenings.

Only a few times after a long day. - Social worker does the same lol

Very bizarre, lets see what happens tomorrow.

hi. I am glad your getting to see your kids. i have had to just sit through the bank holidays. gave up asking ex to see kids on those days, as she is so unreasonable and hostile. so just relying on court.

allegations are hilarious. you see for someone to secure something like a council flat, they need 'valid' reasons. like emotional/domestic abuse, controlling behaviour etc. i experienced the same gibberish. but i try to ignore all that nonsense and just focus on getting arrangement in place to see my kids. for me the funniest part was when ex told lies to cafcass, then she ended up changing the story to contradict herself haha 🙂 some sloppy lying.