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I recently published a podcast about the birth of my firstborn all from a dad's perspective. However on occasion I refer to the pregnancy as 'our pregnancy' and not 'her (my wife's) pregnancy'.
I have gotten some heat from this from some mums. Some felt it was cringeworthy. Others felt it was down right offensive.
I thought saying 'ours' was showing that we're in it together. I also thought saying 'we're pregnant' was a thing, no?
The idea to say 'ours' isn't to take anything away from mum, its simply meant to show care/support/sharing.
Thoughts? Hers or Ours? And does it offend???
You say you got some heat from some mums, but I presume there were some women who either agreed with you, or didn't disagree at least. There will always be different opinions, my view is that the language doesn't matter, if the thought behind it is that you are supporting your partner, then don't worry about what others say, either for or against.
In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with referring to it as "our pregnancy", let's face it, it wouldn't be happening without your "input"!
I think it shows commitment and reflects the changing dynamic of Families in the 21st century... don't let the haters get you down, those that take offence really aren't worth worrying about, they need to take a look in the mirror and have a word with themselves!
As long as your other half is ok with it then that's all you need. All the best
.... it wouldn't be happening without your "input"!
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