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Had my first counselling session last week, it got me thinking and feeling optimistic that there is at least a way to drag myself out of my depression.
Things aren't looking so good on the marriage front though, a few misunderstandings, and my wife reading my blog has got us to the stage where she's consulting solicitors already.
I'm getting on fine most days, I do have some real slumps though. I e-mailed my wife on Friday just to say if there's anything in her that's considering reconciliation then don't be stubborn and don't ignore it. I'm not sure if it'll make any difference. We talked on the phone the other day to clear up a few misunderstandings that had come from only communicating by e-mail. It was in that 45 minutes that I realised just how much I miss her. Things were never perfect, but I still think we could have, and still maybe can, fix our marriage from the inside out. It's down to her though unfortunately, and whether she really is done and for good.
I'm making a conscious effort with my daughters more than anything, trying to calm myself down and give them a bit more leeway with things. I'm seeing a difference already, they're much more snuggly, less angry, and they even keep saying after days with me that they don't want to go home again. Which is a little awkward, but give me a little bit of satisfaction at least.
Still a long way to go, I know the hardest thing is going to be getting everyone through the permanent split, but I know that I'll make it through the other side. I'm not sure what state I'll be in, or what the other side will look like, but I'll get there.