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What small change can you make in 2015 to improve your relationship with your Partner/Wife/Husband ?
well, my step-daughter moves out this month, so that will only leave us with my daughter left at home - quieter house, less mess. How could things not get better 😀
Watch more TV.
It sounds silly I know, but I really don't watch much TV at all, in fact if it wasn't for the fact we have foster children that come from homes and social circles where discussion at school and amongst peers is the TV they watch then I suspect we might not have a TV licence.
When the wife and I first started out in our marriage and for the first 4 years or so (though we didn't foster)we had a TV but only to watch DVD's on, so no licence. My brother sent me the box set of Buffy the Vampire Slayer and we would watch one, two or more of those in an evening. It was a wonderful way of bringing us together to cuddle and engage with each other over plot lines and characters. We wanted to do something non-vocational where we were friends again rather than just parents and partners and workers and watching these dvd's fit the bill. After that I joined Lovefilm before it was Lovefilm and we started renting TV shows such as West Wing,CSI and 24. It was a brilliant period where we really had quality time together.
Now I find we don't do that as much and I know my wife would still love to. I've been sitting on the last 4 episodes of Boardwalk Empire and just not getting to it, I end up in front of the internet and doing nothing productive at all.
There is so much good TV out there and I know we need to get that "us time" back seeing as we now have two children of our own rather than one and also we foster (currently we have a young boy with Autism) so quality time is even more rare.