[Solved] Marriage break up

Hi There,
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In what way were this group odd?
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I tried to keep fish, but they just died on me so gave up, I used to have a lovely pond when I was with my ex wife and this fish always did well, but not managed to keep them in a tank.
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Next week will be hard, but you have us to talk too so hopefully you will get through it.
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GTTS

Hi,

Thanks for the reply gtts

Not much has happened since the other day.
Got my fish tank!.
The group was a bit clicky I guess, just didn't feel comfortable I guess.
Still I gave it a go.
Got a date on Saturday night with this lady from work.
Nothing serious, I am not ready for anything yet.
But she is nice

Keeps cutting my message in half lol.
Anyway counselling this afternoon .
Catch you later
Goatjazz

Hi There,
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If you don't want anything serious with the lady from work just be up front with her and I'm sure you can enjoy each others company, you never know what might come along in the future from it, if you take things slowly and it's what you both want then who knows.
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I guess if the group were a bit clicky then as it was your first time meeting them if you went again it could be better, I go along to motorbike meets and ride outs and those groups can be the same they have all known each other for a long time and you can feel like you on the side lines so I get what your saying.
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Hope counselling goes well.
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GTTS

Morning everyone,

So done my bit at work for today, feeling slightly better today.
Had a good Councilling session yesterday and am forming some new strategies for dealing with things.
Got an email yesterday evening from my ex,basically it was an apology for being a bit harsh with some of her replies etc,
She still didn't take much responsibility for anything but I guess its the best i can expect.
So have this drink tomorrow evening with this lady from work.
Will update soon with more news on my life lol.

Goatjazz

Morning,
So Monday morning again.
Feeling ok today so far.
Not much planned for today, going to read some of my book about self help.
Went for this drink on Saturday, was a nice evening, but it hit home that I am not ready to date or even think about it yet.
Yesterday I was really down, the thought of having to go back to square one.
But its a process and I have to go through All this.
Ex goes on holiday on weds so another big step this wk for me.
Going to be tough.
Goatjazz

Only you will know when you are ready to date, and even then there may be a few false starts. If the lady from work knows your position and you are open about your intentions (or lack of), then if she's still willing to go for a drink occasionally, I can see any harm it doing that, just to get you back into the world.

Good afternoon.
Will been back to work, still on reduced hours, but its getting me up in the morning which is good.
So tomorrow she goes on the holiday...i should be going but obviously I am not.
I know this next few weeks will be horrible, knowing that she is out there, doing the stuff we planned.
So any advice help or anything will be much appreciated.
Goatjazz

Morning,
So today is the day.
Ex going on'our' holiday....god do I feel [censored], so sad, have been awake since 3am. Not going to work today. Just can't face it.
Going to stay home and be safe. I know if I did anything else I would be trying to contact her etc.
Just got to ride the storm on my head I guess.
Who would have thought that someone can mess up your mind and life so much.
Will be a huge struggle these next few weeks....so glad I blocked every social media.
Although her best friend had already put on fb have a nice holiday....we are mutual friends...might have to block her now.
Help and advice welcome!!

Hey, either stay off social media or remove mutual friends - if they're friends they will understand why you have done this.

It really is a case of time being a healer. You've had some good days and some bad days. Soon the good days will outnumber the bad, it's a cliche but it's true. Hang on in there.

It's possible to just 'unfollow' people on Facebook rather than block them. It means you can stay friends, but their news doesn't appear on your newsfeed. Also, might be best to block your ex on Facebook so you can't see what she's up to (for your own sanity). This would stop you seeing anything mutual friends post with her tagged in as well.