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Hi,
So have been to play golf with my daughter, only pitch n putt. But it was good fun and don't think either of us were any good!...
But it made me feel better, and was nice to spend some time with my little one.
So I am back now at my mums, going to take my daughter for a slap up Sunday roast next week.
So I feel rubbish this morning, got the docs this afternoon.
See what they say.
Just struggling with it all.
My birthday on Wednesday, so that's going to be tough.
Just not sure what to do.... Need to get back to work but feel awful.
See what doc says....
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Morning,
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I can see you have been all over the place this past week with some small wins (collecting your things ect) but not really gotten a hold on things, this is normal and as we have all said it does take time.
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I think if you can return to work even on reduced hours then you will start to feel better quicker as you will be filling your time and also getting a routine back.
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Golf sounds good, not something that has ever gotten me hooked, I did try it when I was much younger but just didn't click, but even if you try it and see how it goes.
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Car boots are always good for bargains, used to love wandering around them trying to spot something no on else had that was worth buying, I used to buy a lot of motorbike stuff, just bags ect that strap to the bike as they were always cheap and useful.
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Keep chatting to us, you are taking small steps to get through this but it will take time.
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GTTS
Morning ,
well I went to the docs yesterday and have got a doc note for three weeks, but am going back to work on reduced hours on Friday. Just need to get my birthday out the way, which is tomorrow.
This morning, I think I have worked out what I am feeling, not missing her, just the routine and being in a family, also all the things that I was looking forward too. So I guess its ok.
Just need to get back to my flat.
Then I know I can properly start to rebuild my life.
At the moment its still on limbo
But I am going to get a kettle and toaster today from Asda which I saw yesterday.
So little steps.
Thanks again for all the help.
Also I joined an online forum which is for relationship problems, have been chatting on there and a few of us are now on facebook with our own messenger page. So that is helping.
Goatjazz
Hi,
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It sounds great that you have a further support network in this new group I bet that's helping you lots.
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When you said that hardest part was saying good bye to the dog, It showed that it wasn't her you were missing but it's not always clear.
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GTTS
Morning,
Well its my birthday today. Already been crying loads.
Got an email from the ex .... Which is posted below.
Not sure if I should reply and if I do what to say.
I know there is nothing that is going to happen, nothing is going to change.
So its just a weird day now.
Feeling lost again.
Any advice on the email would be good.
Cheers
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E-mail .
Well I tried to attach it but it would not up load.
So it said.
She wasn't sure if to send one saying happy birthday. But she decided to.
Then let me know that the dog wasn't very well .
So that's it really.
Haven't replied yet.
Hi There,
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I would reply just saying thank you and leave it at that, it's best to stay civil, I know you are hurting and this has probably made things worse, but just a simple reply is enough to acknowledge her email, may ask her to let you know how the dog is and leave it.
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Happy Birthday too, Probably not your best, but keep plugging away and you will start to move forward.
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GTTS
Happy Birthday.
Doesn't hurt to be polite and say thank you but I would just leave it at that and focus on yourself.
Afternoon everyone,
Thank you got the birthday wishes.
Not had a bad day, not done much, going to get a take away tonight.
I replied with just a thank you.
Also today heard from tenants , that they move on 10th Oct, which is great. I can start to plan a few things soon.
Been chatting on our f/b page with my new friends from the other website.
Thanks again for your support,
Speak tomorrow.
Goatjazz
Morning,
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Glad your birthday wasn't too bad, how was the take away?
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Great news about your flat, hopefully you can busy yourself with getting things ready to move back in.
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Have you returned back to work yet?
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GTTS
Morning,
Well it's that funny morning feeling again.
Yuk
But I guess I am moving slowly in the right direction.
As I said in my post yesterday, the tenants contacted me and are moving on 10th Oct.
So at least I have a date to move back.
I got a few more bits for flat the other day, kettle and toaster.
So back to work tomorrow for a few hours. Just going to take it slowly.
I just feel empty tho, and keep getting urges to contact her.
But what good is that going to do....
Arghhh.
Sorry just another bad morning.
Goatjazz