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I don’t know what place this topic best fits under, but it’s essentially about managing money in a marriage where my wife is not very good at this, I am in quite a bit of debt (a bank loan and credit cards), and while I am keeping oayments up, the debts are not going down a great deal and risk being increased. The debts are all in my name as I am the only wage earner. I earn enough to support the family, or would, if my wife didn’t spend so much. Within a week of pay day we are running short on cash and the rest of the month is a struggle which often involves a degree of credit reliance. As a result I’m trying to keep a tighter rein on the purse strings. My wife resents this, but I can’t just give her the household budget for the month in cash as she insists on ordering certain groceries and items online, and I can’t put the cash into an account she has direct access to as she will simply gamble online with it. She is now threatening to sue me for spouse maintenance. Does anybody know what the legal position is here? I don’t see why I should have to hand over a huge chunk of what little cash we have each month just for her to fritter when I don’t have much as it is, and am trying to use it for essential household spending.
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