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Hi,
Do any of you live far away from your children? My situation is moved down south so wife could be closer to her family. But I never settled and never really made any good mates.
We are now starting to seperate and all the dads I know are the husbands of my wifes friends.
My support network of friends is back up in Manchester (mum and dad no longer around). Whenever I go visit them, it really helps take my mind of the awful 2 years leading up to us separating.
So I am now left with the choice of staying down south so I can see my kids more, but have very limited support network, or move back to Manchester, but only see them every 2 weeks at the best (and holidays).
Sadly I dont think I am strong enough to go through all this on my own down south. And financially buying a 2 / 3 bed house is going to cripple me.
So I am sort of resigned to moving back up north, but the idea of not seeing my kids every day really hurts.
Does anyone do long distance parenting. Can you still be a dad but live 200 miles away. Or are you just a glorified uncle.
Am I making a big mistake thinking about moving away.
Any advice appreciated! No idea what to do and it is such a massive life changing decision that I am looking for help anywhere i can to guide me.
Cheers
I did this a number of years ago for a couple of years - I was in Bedford and my ex moved back to Manchester with the kids. It was hard work, but it did work pretty well, the only reason it stopped was I got custody of my kids later on.
hi,
if you end up living 200 miles away, then its likely you would be seeing the children every other weekend, and during school holidays. thats if your able to manage the travel distance, and fit around work commitments.
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