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(@droid)
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My wife has had depression on and off for 5 years..6 months ago she decided to stop taking her medication without telling anyone.

Fast forward to now, she has left taking our 3 school age children to live at her parents 40 miles away from the kids school..

Shes demanding I move out the marital home that's in both our names so her and the 3 kids can move back? but this will render me homeless?

what should I do? iv asked her to go to Relate and she says she will if I move out, but can I trust her?

we talk on the phone and shes just not willing to give it a shot...

im heart broken

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Topic starter Posted : 10/02/2015 4:05 pm
(@got-the-tshirt)
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Hi There,

I'm really sorry to hear what your going through.

You are right if you move out of your home you will be stuck and have no way of knowing whether she would attend any sort of councilling to help with her depression and your relationship.

I would at the moment even though it will be hard stay put in your home and keep talking to her and hopefully she will come around to the idea of either moving back with you ar at least starting to try and talk about things through relate or similar.

What sort of realtionship do you have with her folks are you able to discuss things with them about whats happening and try and get them on side to get her back on her meds?

GTTS

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Posted : 10/02/2015 4:57 pm
(@ejlmc)
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Hi pal,

Really sorry to hear you are going through that. Must be really hard.

Like GTTS said...try and speak her parents? See what they are saying/thinking?

I've not got much experience with this but you've come to the best place for advice.

Hang in there.

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Posted : 10/02/2015 6:29 pm
(@Goonerplum)
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Hi droid,

Sorry to hear what you are going through at the moment. It must be very tough for you.

What do you want to happen? Did this just come out of the blue or have you seen this coming for a while?

Keep talking

Gooner

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Posted : 10/02/2015 6:59 pm
(@droid)
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I like my wife and family back together ..

Iv refused to leave and she's pulling my hearts strings saying the kids need there home..

She's now demanding money to help her rent somewhere..

I feel obliged to help but it's like I'm helping her leave,

She's saying that if I don't help she will have to rent 40 miles away near her parents

She says she's now back taking her meds and that this isn't depression talking..

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Topic starter Posted : 10/02/2015 8:54 pm
(@dadmod4)
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You could speak to Relate anyway to see if they can get some dialog going to get her to talk, without the blackmail element of you leaving the home.

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Posted : 12/02/2015 12:38 am
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