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Is there a healthy way to argue with your partner?
Hi,
I don't think arguements are healthy, it's better to discuss things calmly, though that's easier said than done, and when discusions start they can easily turn into arguements.
I think though that it's what happens after the arguement that really matters, if you have been able to take things on board, maybe admit you were wrong (if you were) and work out how to stop it causing an arguement again, this again is easier said than done.
I try not to go to bed on an arguement try and clear the air at least before sleep so things don't carry over into a new day.
GTTS
Yes there is. As mentioned, it should be about communication and discussions but we are humans so arguments are bound to flare up.
Here are a few guidelines I use myself:
Do not abusive; discuss issues only when both are up to it; stick to the present; stick to the subject; don't hit below the belt; keep things in proportion; don't walk away because you have decided the argument's over; don't try to win at all cost; respect feelings; lastly watch out for danger signals (such as raising your voice and laying down rules).
Hope this helps. I have learnt to not attend every party I get invited to 🙂
Cheers
Hi,
If only all arguements could stay in the present, I think arguements get worse as they go on as old ground gets covered over and over again, This is one of the biggest issues with not resolving issues, they get brushed under the carpet until the next "invite to the party"
GTTS