[Solved] Is my wife cheating......

I think the only thing you can do to alleviate your fears is to have a heart to heart with her and ask her directly. Try to do so in a way that doesn't come off as overbearing or excessively paranoid or jealous.

Just tell her why you have concerns and see what her reaction is. If she's all defensive then maybe she has something to hide. If she has reasonable explanations then hopefully that will alleviate your fears and you can carry on with the issue out of the way.

Changing her passwords seems as though she has something to hide - I would decide before you speak to her both how you will approach the conversation but more importantly what you will do if she admits she's having an affair. If you have children, losing your temper could result in the police being involved and a non molestation order if things go to court for residence of the children. If that happens, the courts and cafcass will be against you from the start and you will have trouble winning any cases.

Hi there

As Paul6611 says, aside from following her, the only way to get this out in the open is to talk to her about your fears.

It must be distressing for you, but all of the speculation is probably worse... get it out in the open and hopefully she will put your mind at rest. If the worst happens, then as said, have a strategy and be sure in your mind how you would want to deal with it.

Best of luck

Hi There,

I mirror what has been said above, I do think though that as you now have your suspicions no matter what she says you are going to doubt her and it will take work from you both to keep things going and work through things, once you have asked the questions she is going to either feel defensive or hurt, or probably both.

My view on password changes to phone and email are that if she doesn't have anything to hide then she wouldn't have changed passwords, so I can see why you are concerned.

GTTS

The whole thing is very strange I never suspected anything until the earlier hours of Thursday when Wife was in hospital. Even though she was in severe pain and drugged to the eyeballs she deleted a number before handing phone to me.

I am really stressing about what to do and how to approach her about it.

Saying that though she was back by 11.30pm which wasnt too late consdering a 45 min drive and she left at 8.

My stomach is churning so much

Hi There,

It does seem quite odd and I can see why you are concerned, I think you need to speak with her about it

GTTS

I agree with all of the above - you are never going to have your mind put at rest unless you talk it through with her, the quickest way to destroy a relationship is through lack of trust and you either need to feel you can trust her (possibly with the help of relationship councelling) , or you need to accept that the relationship has no future.