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Hi all.
Not sure if I'm putting this in the right section of this but here goes.
I'm literally bored out of my mind. Life has turned into groundhog day. I get up go to work, come home, spend 30 min max with my two boys (one almost 4 the other 7 months) then it's bed time so I get my eldest ready whilst my wife gets the baby ready, we all read stories to the eldest then I sing goodnight songs to my boy whilst the wife feeds the baby.
Then it's downstairs tidy up the kids [censored] & cook our dinner. This happens every night. Then once dinner is done the wife washes the dishes & we sit & watch tv, look at our phones & generally pass the time until bed. We barely talk, she's on her phone or tablet nearly all the time & I'm left feeling frustrated & to be honest a bit lonely.
I don't have any time to do the things I like doing as it's always too late after dinner to do owt or on the weekend my wife says I'm being selfish if I don't spend time playing with the kids. I do all the cooking everyday & I love playing with my boys but sometimes things need to be done. You know those little diy jobs that I actually enjoy doing but I never have time to do now.
I just feel so frustrated & bored with everything being the same every day. We're broke so I hate weekends because I know it's just gonna be the same boring [censored] again.
Sorry for the rant but have to get it off my chest.
Hi there
It sounds to me that there's been a breakdown in communication between you....before the kids were you good communicators, did you have any shared interests?
It's up to you to try and inject some fun back into your life....I appreciate its hard when finances are tight so you're going to have to be creative.....picking up a red rose and a cheap bottle of wine on the way home from work for your wife....if you're the cook create some heart shaped mash! Lol. ....you know women like these silly but sweet romantic gestures! Maybe try and arrange a surprise day out for her with her friends...that will make her really appreciative! A little bit of thought and in sure you'll come up with some ideas.
Pack a picnic at the weekend and take the family off to the park, shop around for days out, there's lots of two for one deals out there. If you have relatives close by, try and arrange babysitting so that you and your wife can do something together.
At 7 your son is old enough to join you and help you with your DIY projects....your wife couldn't argue that you are being selfish then and it's good for boys to watch and learn skills from their dad.
If all else fails there is always Relate....counselling is available by phone and online now, here's a link
www.relate.org.uk
Good luck
Agree with Mojo, it is almost down to you to save your relationship. Communication is key.
Picnics are cheap and great fun by the river or lake. A small bonfire in the back garden with marshmallows, etc. Maybe allocate a day on the calendar for your diy work (with your boy) or a planned me time so no one feels left out. Maybe join your wife in the kitchen while she washes and just talk about the day or activities to try etc.
All the best and laugh lots.
Hi guys
Cheers for the advice. My boys are 4 years & 7 months so not really old enough for helping out although my 4 year old does try to help & we have fun doing the gardening etc.
You might find it hard to believe but my lass hates all that sappy stuff. If I made her heart shaped mash she be devestated lol that's part of the reason why I love her & I do love her it's just hard at the moment.
We had quite a good chat earlier & got some things sorted.
I really like the idea of allocating some time for myself to get jobs done. Gonna put that too her tonight.
Thanks guys. I guess I needed to get it off my chest.