[Solved] I was texting someone flirty and inappropriate.

I'm afraid that what is happening now is something you should have foreseen when you started this - look at it from your wife's perspective, how can she possibly understand that you weren't intending to do more than just message, and as you say, if it was for the attention, being honest, what would (or might) you have done if the opportunity arose for it to progress further?

I would suggest that you consider going to Relate - let's face it, if everything was perfect at home, you wouldn't have entertained the idea of continuing this texting, so it may be that there are some root causes you need to sort out.

I think your response actd is a bit harsh as no matter what our relationship status is like we all like a bit of attention and it is far more valuable to us if it comes from someone other than our partner. No it probably isn't appropriate and his wife will have trouble getting over this (as did mine, and still not sure she has) but we are all still people in our own right. My TEXT chat started with an old friend who I had not seen since school some 20 years ago. She wasn't allowed to use facebook by her husband (should have been a clue there) so we spoke over text and they were not even flirty but it was someone who wanted to talk to me, not as a Dad or a husband or as a mate down the pub but someone who was interested in me. There was no root cause as you put it or something that needed fixing as it wasn't something my wife could offer, if was chatting and TXNDAD probably took this for being a release from the daily grind and a bit of escapism. Try to work through it if you can but good luck.

Nobody is judging here...I think your case is a little different as there was no sexual innuendo/flirtation involved and your wife didnt know the woman. The fact that you had known this woman from school would be upsetting for your wife and I can understand why she would feel threatened by it. I 'm glad you are working through it but just the fact that you are on the defensive about it suggests that you havent fully accepted that what you did was wrong...as I said I'm not judging here, its just my opinion 🙂

Friends Reunited and Facebook have a lot to answer for and have been the cause of countless break ups! did you make contact throught one of these networking sites?

Sorry wjo if it seemed a little harsh, it wasn't intended to be so, but merely looking at this from a wife/partners point of view. I agree it is nice that someone else shows an interest in you, but it's what you do with that which causes the problem. If you tell your wife/partner, then there is nothing hidden, and if she's uncomfortable with it, then you should stop - ultimately, the relationship you have should be the most important thing, and concealing this sort of thing is bound to make your wife wonder whether it really is, and whether she can trust you again.