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Be kind to yourself. Exercise is a great way to feel better even when you have no motivation. Our members are very supportive, feel free to post when you need it and as Slim says lean on your family and friends.
If it all gets a bit too much, counselling can be really cathartic and help you make more sense of this difficult time. Your GP will hold details of local services and lots of them you can self refer.
Take care
I just agree with everything that's already been said.... A week is no time at all and I think you are doing really well in the circumstances, you are getting to work and making the effort to get some excercise...make sure you are eating properly and getting plenty of sleep and just to echo Yodas words...be kind to yourself.
Have you thought about some couples counselling? If you can get her to agree it might be helpful for you both. Counselling can help with the separation process as well as with couples that are trying to work things out. Here's a link to the Relate website, they offer help directly, by email or by phone.
www.Relate.org.uk
Hello Macc79
Please take heed of the replies you have received, truly, we have all felt as you do now and we do understand how you feel.
Everything changes, there isn't anything that stays the same and you will begin to feel better as the shock wears off.
There has been some good suggestions made of things you could try to do which will help, albeit you may think there isn't anything that will work but believe me when I say, THEY DO!
Talking, you must talk, you are NOT a burden to your family, friends, people on here and elsewhere. MR SLIM mentioned the Samaritans, a wonderful organization. I know someone who used them particularly in the middle of the night, they were marvellous.
Be kind to yourself ! Please try to get enough sleep and eat properly, so important.
You all have no idea of what a difference some kind words have made to me today and how grateful i truly am for them.
I live in hope that when I wake up tomorrow things may be a little easier than they have been today
It's still fresh. This is going to be one of the toughest times of your struggle. Times does go slowly...really slowly, it's just filling that time that you need to work on. Don't keep it all in, you need to talk to people about it. It will drive you insane otherwise.
Like I said before...you need to get busy. Your head is in overdrive and i totally understand what that's like. I lost nearly 3 stone in weight from the stress of it all and over things, and sat in my house with the curtains closed and it made it worse. You need to get out and be busy. Go to football games, go to the gym, go spend some money on a playstation or anything to keep you busy.
Completely agree,
although I got fatter.
Weeks feel like months etc and I completely understand the feeling of burdening, you have two choices spreading that loads or keeping it in a few people, Id recommend the latter so you have other people to talk to someone else about. Go to the GP and get yourself a counselling referral or self ring IAPT it might help. Id say counselling though.
Completely agree with keeping busy, I was on overdrive for weeks and was sorting a home etc when that all stop, I stopped, like Id hit the wall and ended up unwell but I probably recovered more quickly.
I bought a playstation but I havent played on it really...ha!!
Id definitely say get to a gym, do classes rather than solo attempts if you can overcome that. Its genuine treatment for mild to moderate depression.
it does, it DOES get better, what got better for me was stability of contact with child but the relationship breakdowns are chronically hard, EVEN if you dont like them, people forget what ots like to sever an attachnent