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I will try and make this as short as possible. Two years ago my Mother-In-Law decided to move to Grenada with her husband. They were supposed to research all of the logistics of such a move, but they didn't, and their failure fell on my wife and I. Due to the fact that they failed to secure any kind of healthcare they are forced to come back to the United States to attend to all of their healthcare needs. Last year they arrived in late September and did not leave until February due to a mammogram that turned up a mass on her breast and her husband had issues with his prostate. Both of their health issues were resolved allowing them to finally return to Grenada. During this time they stayed with us in our condo. They were only supposed to stay for two weeks. During their 5 month stay things became extremely difficult. I'm retired and my wife still works mostly from home. When my wife is working her mother often interrupted her, and it made getting her work done at home difficult. As a result my wife would go into the office at least 3x a week. During the days my wife would go into the office I would leave the house early to go to the gym, shooting range, or visit my parents. I only returned home once my wife got back home. If they needed to leave the house to get their medicine, or decided to visit a friend they had their own set of keys to the house and they could use my son's car to travel. My wife always made sure she had 2 meals prepared for them and instructed them on what food not to eat because it was being saved for dinner. At this time I should state that neither my MIL or her husband suffer from any cognitive issues. For reasons unknown to me they would not respect this request. Most of the time I didn't care because I ate dinner at my parent's house. This is one of many examples of their behavior while they are staying with us. They can't afford to stay in a hotel or buy a smaller apartment because they have to live off the proceeds from the sale of their home (my wife set them up with a high yield account while they can comfortably live off of their social security and pension as a steady income). They are due back at the end of September. I have secured a part time job for most of the time they will be here. I don't want to get upset and say something that will make them feel uncomfortable. That happened near the end of their stay in February. I told my wife that their dream should not impact our lives. How can I survive this visit without causing further tension?