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Just wondering if any of you have been through something similar.
Recently this girl asked for my number on a night out. She seemed really nice and that's never happened to me before. I'm not particularly looking for someone as I have my 14year old son living with me and we never have any free time to do our own thing anyway. To cut a long story short he seen that this girl had texted me and had a total meltdown. He said he just wants it to be me and him as he's really happy with life etc. We have had a torrid time over the years and he is obviously settled now. I've been on my own for 8 years bringing him up. This was out of choice to watch my son grow up and spend those special times together but I think do wait until he is older and has his own life before looking to start a relationship.
Hi there
At 14 years old, he should be mature enough to talk to about this. Being a single parent is a tough job and even the most dedicated parent needs to be able to have some downtime and mix with people socially.
If it were me I wouldn't want to be dictated to in this way by my teenage son, but I do understand that this may need more sensitive handling because of what has happened in the past.
Eight years is a long time to be on your own, what to do next is your decision, but if you want to carry on chatting with this girl, or anyone else for that matter, I don't think you should put it on hold until he flies the nest!
All the best
Thanks for the reply. You are right in what you say. I think the problem has been not really talking about me having a relationship over the years and all of a sudden this has cropped up. I'm going to keep it in our conversations from now on so when it does happen he's prepared more. Like you say he's old enough to understand and he's a good lad really. Kids eh?
Hi There,
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I agree with Mojo, I think at 14 he is old enough t understand that your life needs to move on as well.
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I think if you discuss things with him as you say, than hopefully he will start to accept things a little more and start to be ok about you seeing someone.
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though admirable dedicating all of your time to your son, you do need your own life as well.
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GTTS
Are you happy as you are? if so why risk meeting someone that could bring the house of cards down. Personally I have gone MGTOW and am very happy, I acknowledge this isn't for everyone but as a man, a logical thinker who exercises common sense, a new woman and the risk reward element is not worth it to me. Good luck buddy.
Just a thought, but is your son starting to venture into his own relationships - he's certainly old enough and perhaps there's something there he'd like to talk to you about.